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28 Responses

  1. iampisspot

    I absolutely adore this post.

    It resonated very deeply with me.

    In the past year, I have ventured on a pretty enlightening yet terrifying personal journey.

    I think if I met the Liz from a year ago, I would have so much to say to her, but, like you, I’d have to leave her to make the mistakes, suffer the heartbreak and learn to come out the other side.

    It’ll be interesting to see where I’ll be in twenty years!

    Your writing really captured me, so thank you.

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  2. Amy Vansant

    Thank you for reading! I wish I could go back to Last Friday me and tell her not to eat that cheese steak, but what can you do. 🙂

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  3. Jen

    I sometimes think how great it would be to fill the young me in on all the things I shouldn’t worry about. I do love where I’m at now so wouldn’t want any of that to change. I just wish that I could have spent less time being stressed about things that didn’t matter and enjoy everything more. But, that’s what growing up is for I guess.

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    • Amy Vansant

      Absolutely. The only thing I know more impossible than going back in time is convincing a younger person that an older person might actually be RIGHT about a lot of things.

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  4. Lance

    Two weeks ago, I sat down and wrote a letter to 18 year old me. It’s a conventional, cliched, blog post. I was struggling with something non fiction to write. Suddenly, in the middle of what I thought was a funny, snarky, slightly stupid 500 words abotu what a jagoff I was at 18, I started to get emotional. Robot me, pulled the emo back inside and I realized that today and tomorrow kick yesterday’s ass. I doubt I’ll post it, unless you or Abby can talk me into it.

    I love seeing the picture of you at 30. I had to get rid of every picture of me before the age of 35 due to copyright issues and wel…evidence.

    Love this post

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  5. Amy Vansant

    Post it! But you have to add a picture. There must be one floating around… HS yearbook? Was it hairband hair? Kind of mullety? Come on… you can show us… we won’t laugh… *snicker*
    Thanks!

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  6. JustMe

    I love this. I’m only 28 – but there are SO. MANY. THINGS I would tell the high school / college / grad school Me. So many things. I would save myself money, heartache, confusion, 5 pounds of cake weight…

    Gosh. IF ONLY.

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  7. Grace Lewis

    This is great. I feel the same way about my stupid college boyfriend. Can’t change that because it would change where I am now. The way I get around this is by passing these things on to my younger sisters who are 6 and 12 years younger than me (One is newlywed and the other an 18 yr. old college freshman.) I would be thrilled if they didn’t have to go through all the same crap I did.

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  8. bschooled

    Best. Post/Story. Ever.

    I’m not kidding, I would wait in line to buy your memoir.

    And I never wait in line for anything.

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    • Amy Vansant

      *blush* You are too kind mam. Well, when we’re sitting in the old folks home/loony bin for Wayward Bloggers I’ll just hand you one.

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  9. Jeane

    What a wonderful post. So touching and then of course a touch of you humor. We often forget that some of the mistakes we have made have actually helped us get to a more perfect place…wonderful post. You and your bother are adorable.

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  10. Carrie - Cannibalistic Nerd

    I love this! I would be really lame and say things like, “Don’t bother watching Entourage when it starts, you’re just going to realize it’s about a bunch of douchebags and stop watching it, anyway.”

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    • Amy Vansant

      I actually watched the whole series and the self-loathing derived from that helped give me that pain and anguish you need to write.

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  11. Christine

    I love this post. I wish we could all see at the time that every little thing that happens – the good AND the bad – leads us to right where we’re supposed to be. I’m pretty sure I’d still tell young me to avoid tequila, though.

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    • Amy Vansant

      I sometimes think it would be cool to be able to see the options too – to be able to say “If X happened how would that turn out?” Of course then you’d be frozen for second guessing yourself.

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  12. blunt delivery

    ah my dear. how i love these kind of posts.

    interestingly enough, i once moved to london for school in order to make it easier to break up with a guy so i don’t think you’re crazy at all.

    oh i’m almost there. i’m 30 now, but i’ve already got volumes of stuff i’d tell 20 yr old me.

    oh, and that lip liner. gees

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    • Amy Vansant

      So glad to hear someone else moved a body to another state just to break up. Sometimes a little separation is all you need! (See, I could tell a kid that but would they listen? NOOoooooo….)

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  13. Naked Girl in a Dress

    I have read so many posts that were letters to the old me. This is the most original take on it that I have read. It is funny, but so true. I cling to my past mistakes as well because I know anything different would change the course of my life. Life looks good now. I wouldn’t want to live it any other way so wouldn’t mess with the past.

    Great post!

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    • Amy Vansant

      Thanks! I don’t think I started out writing a “message to the old me” post, but the next thing you know, that’s what was on the page. 🙂

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  14. Sylvia

    This was incredible. I’ve been fantasizing about meeting up with younger selves, so it was fun to read this. And yep – change one thing, and you lose where you are now Ah, what the hell. All the other stuff is part of the fun (?). :0)

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  15. Erin ronald

    Ohhhh the things I could have done differently. People not to trust, relationships that dragged on too long. That one tryst in a disabled stall in the ladies room at a seedy bar I used to frequent. Alas, as you say…those decisions bring us here, don’t they? And I’m really enjoying here right now. Sometimes it takes a million wrongs to make a right. Excellent post! Giggles all around!

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    • Amy Vansant

      Thanks! I feel the same way. Lots of things I could change, but I wouldn’t if they would disrupt where I am now!

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